Lost phone — find it

Posted on November 7, 2010 by admin

Upon seeing: http://lifehacker.com/5680692/tektrak-tracks-your-lost-iphone-without-the-99-mobileme-tax

I have this comment:
Who needs to ring/ping a silenced phone if you can have it call you. I
don’t think mobleme can do that. Now you can reverse ping — “hello”
“hello”…. Just holler till you find it. If it can’t call you, you
could not have pinged it anyway. (must have two phones)

You can always use iLocalis as well. It installs in jailbroken phones
and you can set it to not be removable (not just hidden)-plus then apple
can’t shut it off when it wants more memory and shuts down background
apps. It can tweet you updates and you can give expireable links out.

The only downfall to all these, is that apple does not have two tiered
security. If someone does take your phone and you have it locked. They
might as well get rid of it. I believe Android has a separate data
password. At least Sprint’s HTC 4g evo does

The nice thing with tektrak is that is shows your track on the map. Not
just where you were at giving times one at a time.

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Wish list – Oh and since all these generally only do a check every 10-20
to preserve battery, what if it were more frequent when the phone is
already being used. I mean, I didn’t know my phone was gone till it was
too late, and the “locate phone” feature turned on along with a
text/SMS/email sent when ever the wrong password entered too many times.
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Previously that day, I posted this to a group for someone…

if you are cool with jailbreaking, I love ilocalis.com

It can even send you an alert when they change out the sim card, and have it call you. Then you can hear them talking with your iphone. No denying they had it when you hear them talking.

— it does not ping, but using the call me feature, I can hear what side of the room its on via the other phone.

You can even send a link to a friend saying hey, follow me on my trip — the link can expire in 1, 3, 7, 30 days or never — or it can tweet for you. (I setup a private tweet account just for this).

I only wish apple had a two tiered lock feature like android has. The way it is now, someone sees the phone is locked, and have no reason to keep it on them. So they throw it away. With the android I can hand the phone to a friend so they can call someone, but they still don’t have access to all my confidential data.

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I have an interesting view of polyamory

Posted on November 1, 2010 by lifehappens

non-monogoamy graphic chart www.obsidianfields.com-lj-nonmonogamy2.5.gif by xeromag.comI have a backlog of things to post, but I came across this little image, and had to comment which lead me to continue on to my view of poly.

As I do my blogs, this is free thinking, and me trying to figure it out. It does not necessarily make a stand* but offers ideas. This is especially true since this is a work in progress that was posted early.

Interesting way to put it….  Open, closed….. whatever.
http://www.obsidianfields.com/lj/nonmonogamy2.5.gif by xeromag.com

As for my view of polyamory:

I have an interesting view of polyamorous… while not intimate, the common person may understand…. girls night out, cooking club, or the guys weekly golf/poker/basketball game.

Just like polyamory, your intimate relationship may not work out if you are limited in this important aspect of your life.

Just like many’s view of poly, many are jealous of these friends as if intimate. (not sure if that justifies polyamory, a special relationship with friends, cutting out everything but your partner, or god forbid…. makes them intimate and affecting the intimate and thus polyamory)

What’s better? Satisfy your partners needs… who’s–the jealous one’s or the one that needs there own space? Will it lead to more, and who pushed it along. Will the fact of being around these others who affect your intimate relationship allow you to keep faithful in your intimate relationship, or will it lead to “cheating”. Is it the Jealousy (or thoughts, and possibly accusations, of cheating) that leads to the cheating–if there ever was?

NOTE: (I suppose this  note should also be its own post–perhaps that will come soon)…I have made the argument that if your needs are not met, you should move on. What, when, and how much should you sacrifice? Religion says one thing, but many kids have said that breaking up before the kids are “out of the house” is the preferred choice. While both choices are hard, if done right moving on earlier is better. All can agree that trying to make it work is the first choice and step, but forcing it to work is just as bad and fighting during a breakup. Both take discipline, and couples that fight during breakup are the worst. The question is what’s right for a particular couple. Who knows if you’ll fight more together, apart, or both. Can they move on while the children are still dependents. If they are able to do a no contest, they can probably hack it, and should move on before they resent each other to the point that they can’t. If they can’t separate no-contest, they probably can’t get along together either and are harming the kids either way.

*My stand is that I am open minded and ok to at least think about it. I am not “poly” but with my Aspergers, many say that poly works well because of my specific quirks. — more on that later…. another post to come.

NOTE: thats polyamory not polygamy

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Who am I

Posted on September 28, 2010 by admin

That is the ultimate question everyone asks. Do we really ever know?

For me things are complicated. Well, I have Aspergers. I am very high functioning. Why? Time…. Addiction… Life happened. I was shown things, enjoyed them, and adapted so that I could continue, so I could enjoy, interact, communicate. I have setbacks, but above all, I am required to over think. I am always at a higher stress level. I am bad at social norms. I am horrible at communicating. I could go through the whole check list, but I have violated the list frequently. That said, I must reset frequently. I wander a lot, and above all, I am just plain weird. But then being weird can be fun. Thus I push the being weird, and it makes life more interesting. But there are times like everyone that I need my quiet, my alone. Only I need it more. Hence the wandering I mentioned above…. to many, it may appear to be ADHD.

See my next blog on me describing Asperger (AS)

Some things to keep in mind. I think of the 10 principles of burners are ideal. Now you can’t live them 100% 100% of the time. You must decompress. You must pay for your life. But then sometimes that is what makes it fun. If you can shock people in the real world, now that is fun. Plus, if you lived it 100% of the time, you would not have any base to come from. It then becomes its own boring. Change is interesting. Change is life.

Also, I am fairly laissez faire. I put up with quite a bit. I actually attribute this to my asperger too. I find fighting it just raises my stress a little too much. Thus I am easy going. Just remember you should not push it too far too fast. This is true of anyone. So guys perhaps you just think a little more too. Think “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” Only when considering the ‘Golden Rule’, consider that they may not have the same wishes; so you might want to put yourself in there shoes first. With asperger, I must do this and think of a dozen wishes then a dozen wants for every wish…. kinda stressfull huh. And that is on top of the already heightened stress of asperger. See why its good to just take things as they come and be ‘laissez faire’.

I think This is a good start for now. Its time to relax a little (well I actually helped someone else relax). I’ll repost an old blog on what is asperger to me in a bit. And eventually a little more on me.

NOTE: Addiction above…. Things I have learned to like enough to overcome certain limitations of asperger–however hard that is (OMG). Include: Human contact, people (groups, events, etc), love, being needed, wanting others, interaction (even it you count it as keeping me busy) .

More on needs later.

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Starting out

Posted on September 28, 2010 by lifehappens

This is my first attempt at a public blog. I’ve had several of the major sites. Scroll down to “My own blog” to see my discussion on this blog

See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_social_networking_websites

  • CouchSurfing — I travel and host. But they ‘don’t want to be a “social networking” site. ‘
  • Classmates.com — These reunion sites are just spammers right. I’ve created an account on a few, but they just market to you.
  • deviantART — Some great art — Haven’t posted
  • Facebook — they are GOD. Only not the one you should worship. I still use them, and its almost required if you want to keep in touch. It’s cheaper than flyering — who reads them any more anyway.
  • Fetlife — yea, I like to keep life interesting.
  • Flickr — isn’t this a picture site, what about photobucket or the others?
  • LiveJournal — never been a big blogger (see note on me and blogging — “My Own Blog”) so I never used it much.
  • Meetup.com — Honestly I’ve never used it much. Interesting, and limited. I friend people with similear interests, and they can invite me to events on facebook or myspace, and post what they are doing NOW. AND They are free. Granted the participants don’t pay.
  • MySpace — Was an active user, and still prefer it over Facebook. Perfect for what’s happening NOW. i.e. events. Rather than all the oh I’m feeling xyz, or just stubbed my toe. It died when people started saying I’m bored rather than hey I am doing xyz come join. That and when people started posting a dozen surveys (because they are bored) more than one, and you should put them in your blog/notes/etc. A cool quote is fine, but not a dozen bulletins — It got to where people had to post a dozen legit bulletins to override the stupid ones.
  • tribe.net — I follow the ten principles. This was a great site till they tried to do an upgrade during the peak demand time after the burn of ’08. Now no one uses it, but there are several attempts to get people to use it again. Especially with Facebook being too GOD Like and not as responsible as even google is now that its slipping.
  • Twitter — Don’t participate. I have an account. And even have another account that is private to track my phone. I’ve lost it 2 times, and vowed never to let it happen again.
  • Vampirefreaks.com — I never used, I just had some friends I wanted to reach.
  • Xanga — Heck people used to be torn between this and Myspace. Ok not really this was the kids version, but then they all came to myspace and ruined it. Myspace is more mature than that.
  • Yelp, Inc. — Isn’t this a business ratings and comments web site. Ok sure you can have friends… but still
  • Linked-in — Gee wiz what does business networking not count as social networking. If Yelp and Flikr can make it this one sure does. Though I don’t use it much. They are extremely restrictive. How can I network under those conditions.
  • My own blog. I installed some blog back in 2005 where I wrote privately all my gripes to bring to a relationship councilor. Kinda a diary just to get things out there and off my mind. Similar to this but this is public topics.  The thing I like about having it on my own server, I can add, remove, and do whatever on my own… not at a whim because someone didn’t like me one day and flagged it…. Just don’t read it, and move on–You are stifling. Heck I once had a pic flagged for a float that went down a public street in New Orleans. No there were no topless women or bottomless men. Plus, It can actually make it into search engines. Facebook is closed. Also, I can say who can see it… If I have a private or semi-private post, I can actually say these users can see it. Ok I can do that on Facebook, but if I allow the wrong person to see something, there it goes again deleted. I can add widgets. Yea, I thought about a CMS system like Joomla and Drupal — I even setup a wiki as well as a project management site once. These things just are kinda tough, and even all the crappy plugin’s seem to be for a fee. I can use HTML, perl, java, serverside commands, and my own databases just as easily. Things I really wanted are authentication,  project management and/or ticket system, and an easy way for standard users to update a site–all within the same database setup. Polls, and everything else would just be a bonus. WordPress can do all the basics (and has tons of widgets/plugins/themes/etc), then I’ll just get an independent project management and/or ticket system to supplement it if I need to. Heck perhaps I can share the database or authentication. I see there is OPEN AUTH or something to handle that stuff. Oh yea, and I can find the stuff I like again in the future. Who looking back on facebook can be a challenge.

    Thanks for listening. Hopefully

Some I’ve never done:

  • Bebo — just heard the name
  • BlackPlanet — Slowed down the computers at work more than Myspace ever did
  • delicious — also pretty much just heard the name, and see the delicious logo on all the blogs.
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